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'Inspiration For You' with Randy Mitchell
Originally posted on 01/11/2020

Leaving Unhealthy Relationships

Most have experienced it: staying with the same person no matter how bad and unhealthy a relationship becomes, hoping against the odds that things will eventually get better allowing love to prevail. Some look to God, wish upon a star, or seek out and counsel with every psychologist around to heal the broken seams, replace bad with good, take another drink of love potion which brought bodies together in the first place, and inflame the sparks both felt while first meeting. But realistically, sometimes the right thing to do is walk away early on before you wake up one morning, aged, staring in the mirror, wearing nothing but tattered scars both inside and out.

In my novel, Sons in the Clouds I created two male protagonists. One was very fortunate at an early age to meet the woman of his dreams. They shared a special love and bond which stood the test of time no matter what. They loved, played, respected, trusted, and were completely devoted to each other. They were inseparable from their first moments and the chemistry between them was filled with those rare, indescribable ingredients we all dream of experiencing. The other fell hard for the wrong woman. She secretly lied, and stole a great piece of his heart when all he wanted was to be the best man he could be to her. For a long time he wanted to have faith in the relationship. He clung to the idea of her, the dream of sailing off into the sunset hand-in-hand and arm-in-arm while just knowing inside that she was the one. He loved her, deeply, but her love wasn’t exactly on the same page as his. Later, and after much time had swept by, the truth of who she really was finally became known. Reluctantly and painfully he walked away, taking his battered heart and learning to eventually let it go, freeing himself to find the right partner and share a mutual love. It was hard for him because he wanted to trust in her so badly; that she was the answer to his eternal happiness. Fortunately for him, the signs from God finally slapped him in the face, forcing him to place her in his back window. He became a much better man for it, and used the mistakes of his past to apply towards the future. In a way he was lucky, he was still a very young man with a full road ahead. But for many in normal life, the emotional boundaries are extremely hard to break.

How many times has this happened to us all? A girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife enter our lives and spin us out of control, only to dismantle us piece by piece and steal a part of who we are. We let them get away with it because we want to believe so badly that they’re the one. We can’t let go because whatever it was which drew us in has some certain irresistible grip not easily shaken away. Sometimes months, even years go by before seeing the light and summoning the courage to open the door and run to the other side. By then, the scars are oftentimes running deep, zapping our energy, taking much time to heal. We knew better, and secretly felt inside that it would definitely end one day. The omnipresent signs were everywhere: lack of trust, respect, communication, lingering grudges, sometimes infidelity. Yet, letting go of love is never an easy battle to win because everyone wants it so badly. And like flakes of gold found deep inside mountains of earth, true love is the ultimate in human discovery.

I’ve known many who’ve stayed in relationships for long periods of time which weren’t healthy. They have their reasons and it’s certainly their right to do so. And I’m not immune, believe me. So, why do so many do it? The biggest reason that I can see is we, as human beings, love a challenge and don’t want to loose at anything, especially when it comes to matters of the heart. And then there is the investment in time we hate seeing wasted. The agonizing over starting over with someone new, dragging ourselves back into that crazy dating scene, and the exhaustive tasks of sorting through the faces before discovering that certain spark once again. Besides food and water, sex and love are human beings basic needs. Kind of places it all into perspective, no?

Falling for the wrong person is a mistake everyone makes sooner or later. It’s simply a part of life until you find your true soul mate, and even then, the road will never be completely paved with gold. Relationships are always an open textbook devoted to teaching you what you want, a test of fate, a learning experience growing into the couple God has planned. Many are lucky and find the true one right off the bat, for others, trial and error comes before moving in the right direction.

I hope, for you, your dreams of love come early.

To see more of Randy Mitchell's writing, visit his website @ www.theinspirationalwriter.com

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Meet the Author:

Randy Mitchell

Inspirational Writer & Author of

 “Sons In The Clouds”

As a writer and avid movie fan, I love the powerful energy behind words. Words capture and cling to people in a dramatic, poignant way - and live deep inside us all. It doesn't matter if those words are written or spoken; all of us have tales yearning to be shared with each other.

A few years ago, I drove past my childhood home in Texas: a nostalgic place where tender childhood memories still reside deep inside me. I remember those hot Texas summer nights hanging out with my sister, friends, spirited pets and my girlfriend who lived across the street. This happy snapshot transported me back in time to endless, steamy nights as we watched July 4th fireworks, ate homemade ice cream on the front porch, and cooled off at the local lake.

My childhood feels like it happened just yesterday -- innocent moments taken from my carefree youth. These memories comforted me and carried me to a place where I longed to stay – a peaceful haven where I could escape my hectic ‘adult’ life. These idyllic, cherished memories were the inspiration for my first novel, “Sons In The Clouds. My long-time career as a pilot and love of aviation are seen through my main characters, Andy and Wade, who serve as Navy pilots in the Vietnam War. 

Sons In The Clouds” exposes emotional drama that showcases the vulnerable fragility of human nature. The belief in God serves as the problem-solver -- a pathway to the truth -- a light to be used when the problems of man cannot be solved, and becomes a way to expose weaknesses in those appearing to be strong.  I breathe life into my characters in believable, exceptionally REAL ways. A strong theme interwoven throughout the pages is that “love conquers all” – as seen through the unfaltering, devoted commitment between my male characters and the women they leave behind.

My female characters show courage and strength in the face of adversity. Despite the fact that she doesn’t know whether her husband is alive or dead behind enemy lines, Rebecca (Andy’s wife) remains strong and never falters in her devotion to Andy.

Rebecca’s character represents war-time brides (both past and present). I wanted to show the strength, love and courage of these brave women whose loved ones were sent off to the Vietnam War. They faced harrowing fear on a daily basis, and relied on their faith and love to get them through their darkest days–- hoping and praying that their husbands returned home safely.

Most inspirational fiction readers today aren’t interested in G-rated books. “Sons In the Clouds” is a modern inspirational story that encompass spiritual themes where faith and love triumph over the brutal ugliness of war. My characters instill a hope-filled message to my readers long after the last page is read.

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For media inquiries about Randy Mitchell and “Sons In The Clouds”, please visit www.theinspirationalwriter.com or email Mitchellrandy1@msn.com. 

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