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Do you remember back in elementary school how being chased could be a positive thing, or a very negative thing. If the game of choice at recess was freeze tag, then there was something thrilling about trying to stay one step ahead of "it." To not be pursued was total rejection.

On the other hand, when my brother chased me because I had used his shampoo or worn his shirt, that was not a positive experience, but a rather frightening one.

I think the way we treat our husbands can also be a positive pursuit, or a very negative one. We can either be chasing our husbands toward us, or away from us. And most of it we do with our tongues.

When your husband walks in the door from work, what do you find yourself saying? "You are so late!" "Would you please take out the trash?!" "You always forget." If I was a husband, I would be late everyday if that was the response I was going to get at the door. That kind of greeting would chase me right back to work.

Or, are you genuinely happy to see your husband and greet him with compliments and a hug? "Wow, you are a sight for sore eyes." "The kids can't wait to see you." That kind of a greeting would make a guy clock out ten minutes early and skip the gym.

Maybe you are being critical of your husband and you don't even realize it. When he makes a suggestion, what is your first response? Do you disagree, or bring up every possible problem that might happen. Do you always have a better idea, or a different way to do things?

It's those little goads, those small complaints than can add up to a husband feeling rejected and unvalued, and chased away from the intimacy that you both desire.

So, use kind words and genuine compliments with your husband. Catch those small complaints or loud criticisms before they leave your mouth and threaten to chase your husband in the wrong direction. Be in hot pursuit of your husband and chase him toward home.

"'Christ in You...'" from Dale Krebbs

Origin Of Nations