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Refreshment in Refuge

    by Gina Burgess

When Christians Hurt Christians
Date Posted: June 19, 2016

It took nearly 20 years to write this book, but it is now published and available at I actually did pour my heart and soul into this book, when you read it, you'll understand why it took so long to write it. It is packed with practical advice on how to handle difficult people, what to do when you face adversity in the workplace or at church or in the home. These are things that God taught me the hard way. But not just me, numerous pastors and other Christians have given insight in how to deal with difficult people, how to deal with hurt dished out by those close to you, and what to do when a church leader lashes out. Wouldn't it be great to lean from someone else and not have to go through all the trouble of learning a lesson the hard way? My prayer is that your time walking down that Road to Damascus is shortened and not so harsh as the meetings with Jesus I had to live through with my face in the carpet or in the dust of the road I was traveling.

I wanted to share with you some things that people are saying about my book (those that read it before it was published for the specific purpose of giving me feedback and helping with all the other things that are needed before publication).

When Christians Hurt Christians, others get hurt too! This book brings such situations to light in the many stories of Christians who find resolutions by confronting the truth, praying, and applying scripture to heal wounds and overcome dark areas in need of the Light of Christ. Mary Harwell Sayler, Poet-writer and lifelong lover of Christ, the Bible, and the Church.


The workplace can be a place where people are treated unfairly and unkindly. Sadly enough, the same can also be said of some churches. Sometimes it is true that some Christians do hurt other Christians. Over the years at the Louisiana Baptist Children's Home, it is clear that in addition to the more obvious troubles, such as abuse, abandonment, neglect, molestation or desertion, one of the greatest losses was the ability to trust. The Children's Home has been described as a place where a child can learn again how to trust. With her knowledge of scripture, Gina Burgess offers some practical Biblical ideas regarding responses to hurt. She also includes "advice from sages" in which pastors and other church leaders share their experiences and advice regarding their painful experience. Clarence Powell Retired Minister, Louisiana Baptist Children's Home


I enjoyed reading this riveting book. Although it should never occur, Christians do hurt Christians. But the question is, how to respond to such an awful offense? How does one become healed and delivered after enduring such inexplicable pain? Well ... Gina's book provides both intriguing answers and heart-wrenching examples as she travels her Road to Damascus to answer these questions. You will see through her experiences and pain how to truly deal with difficult people ... This includes bullies. There are several nuggets of godly wisdom which can be effective on your road to recovery, such as:

Whatever is not working, let us change it and make it work. Truth is rarely safe, but always good... Truth clothed in love is always good, but may not be received. Forgiveness is a heart change. Jesus makes me complete. No man, mom, dad or sibling, hus-band or wife can make a person complete. Being holy in all conduct... That means letting the Spirit's fruit ‒ love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faith, meekness, self-control ‒ take root on our hearts. And most importantly, it's jam-packed with scripture to guide and instruct you on applying godly principles when you are wounded by your fellow brother or sister in the body of Christ. This is a must read book which I highly recommend. And if you truly want to let go of the bitterness, anger and feelings of powerlessness, etc. ... Gina's book is for you! Vernita "Neat" Simmons Author/Publisher Capturing the Spirit of God's Word with Vernita


You can purchase my book at at Check it out, and I would deeply appreciate hearing anything you care to share with me about it. If you have some advice to share, please don't hold back. God allows adversity so that we can help each other while we sojourn here in this temporary home.

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Biography Information:
Gina Burgess has taught Sunday School and Discipleship Training for almost three decades. (Don't tell her that makes her old.) She earned her Master's in Communication in 2013.

She is the author of several books including: When Christians Hurt Christians, The Crowns of the Believers and others available in online bookstores. She authors several columns, using her God-given talent to shine a light in a dark world. You can browse her blog at Refreshment In Refuge.

If you'd like to take a look at some Christian fiction and Christian non-fiction book reviews before the books hit the book store shelves, check out Gina's book reviews at Upon Reflection

Gina is a partner and COO of Common Sense Marketing Strategies, LLC that owns Authors Community and
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