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    by Randy Mitchell

The Connection between Love and Infatuation
Date Posted: May 30, 2020

The question above is one we’ve all asked ourselves while making that occasional, sizzling eye contact. And it’s also the oldest both men and women have contemplated every time their heart skips that irreversible beat. God made us equipped to love another, to share that certain bond we feel with no one else. But is it love we have while stroking the others hand, or simply an infatuation, a physical response that goes no further than living in the moment when it happens?

Let’s start with some definitions:

Love is a strong feeling for another which lasts through time, and never stops even after death. To love someone means you respect, admire, support, and care for them deeply. You put their desires, needs, and wants ahead of your own, and they do the same for you, unselfishly, and without any thought of payback. You don’t play games, or let others stand in the way of spending time with the one who makes you happy. You make time for them, because that’s the single most important thing in your life. Most of all, love is unconditional, has no limits, and never dies. It’s what gives your life meaning and hope; it’s what motivates you to become a better person. It’s also the single best way of making you whole. Yes, it’s physical, but delves into much deeper feelings that stand the test of time. Love is something you know when you experience it, because nothing else feels the same. When you love someone, they’re the first and last person you think about everyday. When someone loves you, their every word, gesture, or physical movement has deep meaning because you’re living on the same page. Love also brings out the best in you because you want to be your best, always. Love pulls emotions to the surface you never knew you had. Love is tender, patient, kind, and never harms. Love is pure happiness when you find it. Love is always mutual between the two involved, or it isn’t love at all. When one loves and the other doesn’t, it’s always best to open your heart and eyes to another; because love, inevitably, always finds a way.

Infatuation isn’t love; it’s more chemical than emotional because in common reality, infatuation is extravagant or foolish love. An infatuated person, quite commonly, is someone who in over-valuing the beloved has mistaken beliefs concerning her or him. Some consider that perhaps infatuation can only be distinguished from romantic love; others suggest that infatuation may be the first step towards love, can grow into a more mature love, and marks the first stage of a relationship before a bumpy, but nonetheless inevitable transition from romantic infatuation to mature intimacy. In such a view, lovers begin as prolifically inventive, producing enthralling illusions about each other only to be disappointed as the relationship ends. Infatuation can begin and end quickly, and is quite commonly strictly physical in nature. The chemistry is bold and sultry at first, but disappears as new interests arrive. Simply put, infatuation never lasts unlike real love. And it’s a great test we give ourselves every time it occurs.

Every person throughout life will experience love and infatuation, its part of God’s plan for us all. But, to experience both allows us to learn their differences, to discover the red flags of what’s happening when they come; to accept or reject the moments, to move past or steam straight ahead onto that sandy beach or sunset atop country fields while holding each others hands.

Love and infatuation have many things in common. Both will pull your hair out, make you shout into the mirror, raise your blood pressure, gain or lose weight, race through many intersections without stopping, keep you from sleep, wake you among a cold sweat, leave you standing in the rain, and cause you to cry and laugh like a child. Either can age, or keep you youthful. But, both can give you a life worth living.

I write about love and infatuation in my book (s), because nothing draws more attention or emotions out of readers than these powerful feelings. It’s also helped me to discover more about what I love, and who. And being able to discriminate between the two has saved me from wasting time with some who aren’t healthy relationships.

Infatuation, at first, is good. It stirs up your libido and releases energy needed for a relationship to grow. But, love is much more. It’s a wake-up call to see what’s important; a way of planting down roots for a lifetime of growth.

Wishing you all love at its best.

To read more of Randy Mitchell's writing, visit his website @ www.theinspirationalwriter.com

Read an excerpt of his inspirational romance novel, SONS IN THE CLOUDS on Amazon.

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Biography Information:
Randy Mitchell

Inspirational Writer and Author of

"Sons In The Clouds"

As a writer and avid movie fan, I love the powerful energy behind words. Words capture and cling to people in a dramatic, poignant way - and live deep inside us all. It doesn't matter if those words are written or spoken; all of us have tales yearning to be shared with each other.

A few years ago, I drove past my childhood home in Texas: a nostalgic place where tender childhood memories still reside deep inside me. I remember those hot Texas summer nights hanging out with my sister, friends, spirited pets and my girlfriend who lived across the street. This happy snapshot transported me back in time to endless, steamy nights as we watched July 4th fireworks, ate homemade ice cream on the front porch, and cooled off at the local lake.

My childhood feels like it happened just yesterday -- innocent moments taken from my carefree youth. These memories comforted me and carried me to a place where I longed to stay – a peaceful haven where I could escape my hectic ‘adult’ life. These idyllic, cherished memories were the inspiration for my first novel, "Sons In The Clouds". My long-time career as a pilot and love of aviation are seen through my main characters, Andy and Wade, who serve as Navy pilots in the Vietnam War.

"Sons In The Clouds" exposes emotional drama that showcases the vulnerable fragility of human nature. The belief in God serves as the problem-solver -- a pathway to the truth -- a light to be used when the problems of man cannot be solved, and becomes a way to expose weaknesses in those appearing to be strong.  I breathe life into my characters in believable, exceptionally REAL ways. A strong theme interwoven throughout the pages is that “love conquers all” – as seen through the unfaltering, devoted commitment between my male characters and the women they leave behind.

My female characters show courage and strength in the face of adversity. Despite the fact that she doesn’t know whether her husband is alive or dead behind enemy lines, Rebecca (Andy’s wife) remains strong and never falters in her devotion to Andy.

Rebecca’s character represents war-time brides (both past and present). I wanted to show the strength, love and courage of these brave women whose loved ones were sent off to the Vietnam War. They faced harrowing fear on a daily basis, and relied on their faith and love to get them through their darkest days–- hoping and praying that their husbands returned home safely.

Most inspirational fiction readers today aren’t interested in G-rated books. "Sons In The Clouds" is a modern inspirational story that encompass spiritual themes where faith and love triumph over the brutal ugliness of war. My characters instill a hope-filled message to my readers long after the last page is read.

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For media inquiries about Randy Mitchell and "Sons In The Clouds", please visit www.theinspirationalwriter.com or email Mitchellrandy1@msn.com.

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