Inspiration For You
by Randy Mitchell
What produces physical chemistry with someone from the very beginning?
Everyone from psychologists to astrologers have tried figuring out what provides that all-wonderful, physiological reaction that takes place when man and woman meet for the very first time. What turns your skin moist and warm, your eyes dilated and sleepy eyed, and your blood pressure spiking to astronomical levels, surging with lust upon first glance. Many have crashed a car while staring out the window, or even fainted at first sight at their one-in-a-million guy or girl. But, no matter why or when it happens, all of us are always on the lookout for our next sweat-filled, throw-your-hair-back, spark-loaded encounter.
But how does it happen, oftentimes so quickly? How is it that you just know when you know that he/she could be the one? Rather, sometimes they're actually not the one, but our bodies are telling us they are. Chemistry isn't always enough to make you run down that red-carpeted aisle taking weepy-eyed marriage vows, but, it provides plenty of ammunition to begin marching toward a deeper, conscious level with another. It makes you learn about your ability to feel something, to actually connect. That's it, to connect. Hmm, I knew I'd heard that one somewhere before.
For some, this special feeling doesn't happen that often. For others, every other week may be the norm. Not a thing wrong with that, just as long as the object of your affections doesn't take advantage of the situation.
Almost always, having chemistry with another means you have a language of your own. Many times it’s a voice inflection, or a subtle glance saying more than a thousand words. You feel that spontaneous reaction from the very beginning. More than lust, you also feel respect, admiration, and like each other more than anyone else. So much so it keeps you up at night, makes you feel on edge thinking about your next date, that persons certain scent, feel of their hand in yours, or particular voice on the telephone tempting you with desire. Chemistry can also become so intense it brings out both hate and love at the same time--one moment you’re scratching each others eyes out saying the most hurtful things, the next, the headboard’s shaking from unbelievable passion, balancing out each others emotions on a crazy tightrope.
On a deeper level, chemistry in relationships means that both you and your partner's unconscious needs are met either as a team, or through each others strengths. You can understand why love makes you go weak in the knees and causes your heart to skip a beat only if you realize that unconsciously, you, just like everyone else, are searching for that right someone.
I’ve known many women in my life; some gave me that certain jolt in my stomach, a couple I've truly loved. However, one thing I've learned is that chemistry, or that certain spark, can hit you at the most surprising moments, spinning you in all directions.
So how does this chemical reaction actually steer us toward a long, healthy relationship? And at what stage during our initial engine start-up do we see things as merely physical, becoming a double-edged sword for distant, oftentimes abusive, hurt feelings?
I've had chemistry with many women, and I'll admit some should've been best left to my fantasies. Just because someone revs you up physically, doesn't mean there's compatibility, mutual respect, and the ability to be around them in blissful, poetic harmony. Sometimes, the sparks only lasts a few hours, then quickly fade away and are easily forgotten. Those are the liaison's to be wary of. The ones where you should break past the sexy curves and chiseled features long enough to see that they're nothing more than a passing fantasy with no real, long-standing prospect. Are they a total waste of time? Oh no. But letting our libidos go crazy often leads us down an extremely bumpy road.
There was a TV special on PBS a while ago that was very interesting. What it showed was about twenty men and women who'd never met before, not saying a word, gathered together in a room with no makeup, perfume, cologne, and all wearing the exact same clothing. Even everyone's hair was hidden by hat-like covers. The women and men were asked individually who they felt the most attraction for; which ones they wanted to take by the hand and lead off into the sunset. After the answers were given it was all but unanimous: Ninety-nine percent said simply, "There was just that instant attraction that couldn't be described, a rush of adrenaline upon first glance."
Chemistry between two people is God-given. It's a blessing to hold near and dear throughout our entire lives. Good luck in finding, the one.
To read more of Randy Mitchell's wriitng, visit his website @ www.theinspirationalwriter.com
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Inspirational Writer and Author of
"Sons In The Clouds"
As a writer and avid movie fan, I love the powerful energy behind words. Words capture and cling to people in a dramatic, poignant way - and live deep inside us all. It doesn't matter if those words are written or spoken; all of us have tales yearning to be shared with each other.
A few years ago, I drove past my childhood home in Texas: a nostalgic place where tender childhood memories still reside deep inside me. I remember those hot Texas summer nights hanging out with my sister, friends, spirited pets and my girlfriend who lived across the street. This happy snapshot transported me back in time to endless, steamy nights as we watched July 4th fireworks, ate homemade ice cream on the front porch, and cooled off at the local lake.
My childhood feels like it happened just yesterday -- innocent moments taken from my carefree youth. These memories comforted me and carried me to a place where I longed to stay – a peaceful haven where I could escape my hectic ‘adult’ life. These idyllic, cherished memories were the inspiration for my first novel, "Sons In The Clouds". My long-time career as a pilot and love of aviation are seen through my main characters, Andy and Wade, who serve as Navy pilots in the Vietnam War.
"Sons In The Clouds" exposes emotional drama that showcases the vulnerable fragility of human nature. The belief in God serves as the problem-solver -- a pathway to the truth -- a light to be used when the problems of man cannot be solved, and becomes a way to expose weaknesses in those appearing to be strong. I breathe life into my characters in believable, exceptionally REAL ways. A strong theme interwoven throughout the pages is that “love conquers all” – as seen through the unfaltering, devoted commitment between my male characters and the women they leave behind.
My female characters show courage and strength in the face of adversity. Despite the fact that she doesn’t know whether her husband is alive or dead behind enemy lines, Rebecca (Andy’s wife) remains strong and never falters in her devotion to Andy.
Rebecca’s character represents war-time brides (both past and present). I wanted to show the strength, love and courage of these brave women whose loved ones were sent off to the Vietnam War. They faced harrowing fear on a daily basis, and relied on their faith and love to get them through their darkest days–- hoping and praying that their husbands returned home safely.
Most inspirational fiction readers today aren’t interested in G-rated books. "Sons In The Clouds" is a modern inspirational story that encompass spiritual themes where faith and love triumph over the brutal ugliness of war. My characters instill a hope-filled message to my readers long after the last page is read.
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